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If Cinderella had gone back for her shoe, she’d never have become a Princess!
Put another way, it was like flogging a dead horse; or in Odin Development Compass terminology this was a “resistant limitation” for me, and something I probably shouldn’t develop.So, I haven’t!
What about the competencies that, over the course of your career, you've learned and maybe even become very good at, however in pressurised or stressful situations they take a lot more of your energy to be as effective? Or you become frustrated, or risk demonstrating the distorted/less positive behaviours you might normally associate with that particular competency or skill? These “fragile strengths” don’t come naturally to you, however you've learned to be good at them and put strategies in place for coping with situations relating to them.
Wouldn’t it be great to be able to just say “this is me”? I've said it many times before, and often say it to my husband when I may be displaying some of those distorted behaviours.
What is important is understanding exactly what may become a stressful situation for you, particularly at work. Specifically:
- Do you know what these are?
- Would someone who didn’t know you notice a difference in your behaviour?
- Do you notice it yourself?
- Are you aware of how you feel, and the impact this has on you?
- Do you notice any physiological changes in yourself?
To be the "best you”, it's also important to have (or increase your levels of) self-awareness. Only with this awareness can you choose to do things differently and adapt. There may be things that others are aware of, yet for you this is still a “blind-spot”. Have you ever heard of Johari’s Window? If not, look it up!
As an Insights Licensed Practitioner I talk about increasing self-awareness in order to have a greater awareness of others, and as a result be able to adapt and connect more effectively with those people.
To become your "best you”, be it like a princess, prince or a super hero, you must actively think about what you know about yourself. Use this knowledge to drive yourself forward. You can’t change what has already happened but you can do things differently in the future, therefore:
Realise your natural strengths;
Aspire to delegate what doesn’t come naturally to you; and
Do more of what you love!
Let me know if this makes a difference to you.
Blog Posts
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“If you do what you’ve always done; you’ll get what you’ve always got”Posted by Jacqueline Jardine - Tuesday, 22nd February 2022 at 11:30am
This old adage is so true whether applied to recruitment methods, meetings or retaining talent to name but a few areas.
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One of the positives of the pandemic is that there is no longer the monopoly on leadership due to position.Posted by Jacqueline Jardine - Friday, 17th December 2021 at 9:30am
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I have previously written about "Belonging - what does this mean to you?" (http://j-w-c.co.uk/blog-display/293). I want to now build on this and consider it from a team's perspective and what it means if you are a manager leading a team currently.Posted by Jacqueline Jardine - Wednesday, 8th December 2021 at 8:15am
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Earlier this year, I completed my Mental Health First Aider Training (MHFA) England, something I had wanted to do for a little while.Posted by Jacqueline Jardine - Friday, 19th November 2021 at 8:15am
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Recently, I was delivering the "First 90 Days in your New Role" for LHH. This is a workshop which generates great discussion around helping people who are still interviewing to find their next appropriate opportunity and to think about how they would answer this question at interview.Posted by Jacqueline Jardine - Tuesday, 21st September 2021 at 3:15pm